What you are attracting is a reflection of YOU!
The answer can be found by exploring three basic issues:
- level of a woman's self-esteem
- her capacity for intimacy
- roles that she has been in throughout her life
If a woman feels good about herself, she chooses a mate who communicates both verbally and non-verbally to her that she is valued and respected. She won't allow this other person to undermine her positive self-worth. She believes in her ability to participate in a healthy, reciprocal relationship.
If she doesn't feel good about herself, she chooses someone who reinforces her negative self-beliefs.
What are you highlighting her positive or negative beliefs?
Is making women laugh important??
YES….We are so attracted to it!
Laughter plays a central role in human meeting and
mating. A woman seeks a man who can make her laugh, and men are anxious to
comply with this request. Men usually flirt by getting women to laugh, while
women flirt by laughing.
Humor is the key to attracting women. When you
make a woman laugh, not only you feel good about yourself but you also give the
impression that you are a sociable and attractive person (even if you are not).
No woman wants to be around a person who is serious all the time and boring.
Men who can make women laugh are irresistible, as it is psychologically
impossible to dislike a person who can make you laugh. Laughter is the key
component in a successful relationship
When you point your finger at someone (accusing)
you have three more pointing back at you.
Whether we see it or not, if there is a problem, it is our problem or frustration. Denying it does not help us change the fact. Just because we do not see the scorpion in the night, doesn’t mean it wont sting us if we step on it. If we see a problem, it is our problem and we are called upon to do something about it. Recognize that when we accuse others, it is what we see in ourselves that we don’t like three times more so.
Task: Consider if you have accused or judged another? What is it that you are accusing them of? Ask yourself if that is what you are missing within yourself? Then be willing to forgive yourself for the behavior and be willing to replace that exact behavior with compassion and give it unconditionally to others. That which goes around always comes back around.
A Tied Knot
"I was married by a judge. I should have asked for a jury."
-Groucho Marx
“The best way to remember your wife's birthday is to forget it once.” -H.V. Prochnow
Coming attractions…
Making marriage work
falling back in love
Refraining from accusing
No I’m Knot
Some humor on dating.
I've been on so many blind dates, I should get a free dog. -- Wendy Leibman
"Some people are settling down, some people are settling and some people refuse to settle for anything less than butterflies." - Sex in the City
Coming attractions…
How to fall in love with yourself first
When you’re not looking
Ask Daune..How to talk about the things that are difficult to talk about.
| Q: | Hi Daune. I have a well paying job and a great family...but sometimes I still feel like it's not enough. What can you do to help? Thanks! |
| A: | Not Enough…. When we have positive things in our lives but they don’t stimulate passion within us, it stems from not knowing what we really want. Even though the things may be great, they aren’t what you truly wish for. When you honestly decide what you want, it ignites a fire in us to find more in our lives that we have been missing. Thus creating a feeling of fulfillment. So I suggest that you make a list of things that you would like in your life and start with number one to bring it into your life today. |